JS Response to Lynn re. ADD/ADHD

Hello Lynn.
Thanks for complimenting my writing. I have received compliments from professors at the University of Houston about my writing while taking literature courses.
You stated my case scenario well in the blog too.
I agree that you stated this. . . . . “one of the reasons people choose work that is not suitable for them is because they actually could do the work if they can learn it in the prefered way in which they learn. Another reason is that we, the public, the citizens, the children have been taught from a young age that we should be able to do such and such in such and such a way, if we are to be valued. And who doesn’t want to be valued?”
As far as the recommondation for counseling or teaching; I have worked as a volunteer from 2009-2010 at an elementary school for a children’s after-school program. Not only did the students admire me, but the staff loved my work too. I was doing this because ( I hate to admit this) because I could not find work in my field which was printing. In order to actually work in a school environment, I would need an undergraduate degree…..at least that.(Working as a counselor or teacher) I do not regret doing that work, however I think I would get depressed working in that environment because the kids would be graduating out of elementary school, and I would be there working only to inspire a new batch of kids. There is nothing wrong with that. I know this might sounds selfish, but I would not want to be like an old Obi Wan Kenobi or old sage. I enjoyed doing that work, and children were inspired by what I taught them in art other subjects. If anything, those children made my day.
It was a challange to work at an inner city school which was across the street from the Federal penitentiary. Most of the kids are being raised by their grandparents or relatives; and some of their parents are incarcerated. Also, every child lives in section 8 housing. These kids get exposure to things that other kids don’t see in the suburbs.
Don’t get me wrong , Lynn, I appreciate the recommondation and others have said the same thing too as well as my mom and sister.
My magic scenario?
As far as my future dreams are concerned, I have kept quiet about that. I would never tell my family and friends because they would not see that as practical. There are many. One of those is in entertainment. Perhaps in comedy. People have told me that I was funny and rather entertaining. ( I am not trying to toot my own horn) – – – or perhaps act. I have thought of that too. I did take drama in High School as well as college.
Another one is sing in a band. Also, I got an electric guitar over 20 years ago and my mom and sister did not think it was a good idea because they viewed muscians like oblivious party people who refuse to grow up. They thought it was not practical. I could not practice the electric guitar because of the loud sound from the amplifier. Whenever I played, or attempted to play, my mom and sister would state that I should do other important things in the house or study. So I never became good at it and put the guitar away. For some reason I felt a little of shame for trying to play. As of recently, and 20 plus years later,  I traded that same guitar for a better quality guitar and I have been practicing. Last night I was playing guitar and my fiance was singing.  She was happy that I encorporated her in my playing! In the back of my head, I was thinking how nice it would be to get started in some small club and get recognized or have some sort of following.
Aside from art. I love the ocean and I love looking at big boats and yachts. Honestly, I do not know too much about them aside from admiring their beauty on the water. I did have this idea from 2008 when the US economy was starting to tank. Most people were foreclosing on their homes as well as foreclosing on their big luxury boats/yachts. Perhaps  I could do what Greek Tycoon Aristotle Onassis did after World War II and restore boats that were destroyed and convert them into luxury yachts. Of course the boats I would restore would not be destroyed from a war….more from neglect. If I did sell yachts, I could see myself describing these luxury cruise liners like a child would brag about his new choo choo train set. Most of all, and most importantly, sell these beautiful cruise vessels knowing that a customer is satisfied – – – and that their mind is put at ease because someone cared about their needs. And by the way, I would own one two and cruise around the Mediterranean and conduct business.
Now Lynn, aside from my dreams of wanting to be a comedian, actor, musician or a yacht salesman. I am 42 years old. I am engaged. (Wedding in March) Most of all, I do want to have a child. I have no desire to move out of Atlanta because my mother is here. She is old and I want to be close to her.
Honestly, my ultimate dream would be this. To be a good husband and father 1st. But I want to be a provider too. No matter what, I will always find time to be creative in my personal life. Either volunteering or any civic activity. After reading your book…..I am not going to ball up my creative energy anymore……nor feel ashamed of wanting to pursue playing my guitar.
I don’t mind working in the “arts” . . . . However I would like a steady paycheck, health benefits and contribute to a retirement plan.
Also, if I do own up to my style of brain wiring to perspective employers, I don’t want them to be empathetic . . . but more so . . . understanding of my situation. Do you know of a sort of job board for kinesthetic learners like ourselves?
As always, thanks for your time.


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One Response to JS Response to Lynn re. ADD/ADHD

  1. daynah says:

    Hi JS,
    I went to college and finally graduated with a Fine Arts degree. “Not real practical,” just about everyone told me. Now 24 years later I am an innovation consultant. I solve problems so tough that industry experts are stumped by them. I’ve solved “seemingly impossible” problems in healthcare, automotive, aerospace, biotech, semiconductor, and more. Why am I so rock’n good at solving problems that seem impossible? It’s because I understand the way the creative mind works. I have learned to embrace the inventive process in all its ‘pathless’ wonder. In other words, I’m willing to think things and enter into solution spaces that others can’t see.
    Yeah, my mind works differently than most other people’s minds. I have found my way through the school system’s limitations and other people’s opinions and learned to value my unique value. And it’s a doozy. Just like yours is and will be even more as you embrace your gifts and refuse to be limited by other people’s false constructs of you. Listen to Lynn; I think she’s a genius as well as a wise woman.

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